For me, romance isn't an over-the-top act. It's someone offering to help and to support me. Or if that person thinks I'm making the wrong decision, he'll tell me. I want him to be honest, because being that honest takes a lot of guts.
This morning, as I stumbled out of my bed and set my coffee to brew as quickly as possible, my tired eyes came across this matter-of-a-fact quote from Thora Birch. Upon reading it, my eyes opened and I received a bit of revelation on romantic relationships: Romance is in the mundane. It's in the simple acts of kindness where love is found.
As each moment trickles down, there is an opportunity for growth or decline. I can either offer kindness or hurt. I can choose selfishness or selflessness. I can choose honesty or deceit. I can choose to work through it by verbally communicating or I can shut down with determined silence. I can offer courage or cowardice. Either way, romance is found in the "everydayness" of life. It is found in the acts that I think don't make a difference.
From experience, those are the key life moments that I remember. Yes, I remember some beautiful large grandiose acts of love, but I would say that more oftentimes than not, I recall the small amorous endeavors that beautifully have interrupted my day.
As a single woman, I would agree with Thora Birch's quotation. What I desire to have in a romantic relationship is just that: support, help, honesty, kindness. But as a bold woman, this can be difficult to convey to the opposite sex. Dating relationships are a learning experience--learning another person and the best way to communicate with them. Relationships also pull on my own insecurities or weaknesses, as well as exemplify my strengths. It's work and requires effort from both individuals. But as the relationship evolves, I have the opportunity and gift to develop more.
But the biggest question is this: Will I take on the commitment and allow myself to grow in the process?
Love is a choice.
Romance. It is truly discovered and found in the simple acts of kindness.
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