Lately, I've been connecting with countless individuals in their 20s. In our discussions, I've found myself repeating over and over to them: How I wish someone had told me in my 20s what I know now in my 30s.
And though much learning is obtained through experience, here are some things I feel, with a great amount of responsibility, to relinquish to you:
- Don't be afraid. Go headstrong into things that make you uncomfortable.
There are many things that will seem daunting or challenging or unattainable. They will push you out of your comfort zone. That's where the decision comes in. Don't be afraid to fail. Those who don't try will never know. That being said...
- Don't expect immediate results. Great dreams take time--lots of time.
Whether you are wanting to climb Mt Everest, travel for a year, start a business, run a marathon, record an album, adopt, or become a loving wife/husband, these things take time. Don't expect to accomplish them overnight. Expect hardships to go along with them. Expect other people to doubt you or your dream. But continue to move forward into the unknown. It's worth it. But it'll take some time.
- Love people. Get vulnerable. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
I can't begin to tell you how I wish I had absorbed this truth in my heart more rapidly than I did. Hurt is guaranteed. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't embrace love. Because when you fail to do so, you can find yourself alone or surrounded with people who know part of your heart--but not all of it fully. So, open up. You never know where the conversations might lead. You never know how a moment could be a step towards your destiny.
- Say "yes" to the date that you're not quite sure how you feel. "Maybes" could surprise you with a "yes."
This is a piece of advice I sincerely encourage others to take on. Many times, you find yourself surprised (good and bad)! If the date goes horribly, well ladies, at least you received a free meal. Fellas, you were able to at least narrow your search down a bit more. If it goes well, then need I say more? You're glad you said yes! Take the chance. It's always more than worth it.
- Follow through on what you said you were going to do. Don't shy from commitment.
This is self-explanatory, but I can't begin to tell you how many 20-somethings fail in this area. Follow through demonstrates your character. It shows the corners of your heart to others. Follow through. If it's a goal for yourself or a word/promise to another, then follow through. Complete it. You'll learn quite a bit in the process and a sense of gratification upon reaching its completion.
- Treasure your family and the relationships you've been given. They are truly a treasure.
Family is a gift. This is difficult to see sometimes, but if you allow yourself to see them and love them where they are, you'll find yourself amazed. They are a gift--so are the friendships/relationships that are brought into your life. Take the time to invest in them. Spend time listening. Spend time pouring into the lives of those around you. They are the greatest treasure.
There are many other things to pass along your way, but you'll just have be patient. Part 2 will be coming next week! Until then--take one of these words to heart! Carpe Diem!! Seize the day. Be vulnerable. Say yes to the date. Follow through. Treasure relationships. But above all--LOVE!!
Until next week...
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